This would be the outfit I wore the evening I am writing about, and what I looked like that night.
Since I had thrown a bit of a temper tantrum with an earlier postings, I decided to end the day with a more uplifting and happier set of memories in an overall sort of way. At one point in time there had been a #Thanksgiving Dinner being held through a group of females who were both professional and non-professional #Dominants, with #submissives/#slaves/#switches males who were a part of the group. Prior to the event one day in the week I had been asked to assist with teaching the males how to properly serve the females of the event in a more cordial manner, which is a bit ironic as the #Mentor Program I had gone through; that particular female Dominant had been one of my Mentors to teach me about the serving aspects, which she had retaught me what I had taught the males for that Thanksgiving Dinner, if she knew or remembered at the time of the class, I do not know. At the one evening preparation I did show the males how to hold dishes to present as well as how to hold a glass, to present to a female Dominant for them to have something to drink. The other aspects of which I showed them a few other pointers of how to walk, as well as the way to maneuver through a bit of a crowd when handling food and drinks in larger quantities.
On the #Saturday of the Thanksgiving event as usual I had arrived early, however this time I had arrived early to keep my word to assist with the setup. When I arrived there were the group of male submissives, slaves, and switches surrounding the kitchen area full of unprepared food. I asked the female in charge what was needing to be done and she informed me “Everything isn’t ready, and everyone is showing up in less than an hour.”
I walked through the kitchen seeing the several frozen turkeys each over 25 pounds, the side dishes which each had not been prepared, the desserts were being finalized; but all of the males were trying to do what they could, as best as they could. I asked her to go outside and enjoy a cigarette outside, to let me do what was needed to get everything in order. I told her not to worry, and she walked outside to sit down on the patio in the smoking section. I asked some of the males to move from one area to another, minimizing the wasted space for the similar types of food preparation of similar types to work near one another while running the sink to get the water as hot as possible to defrost the turkeys quickly; and I did what I needed to get the water hot faster. I showed some of the males a few tips to prepare what food they were working on quicker and more efficiently while showing other males how to season the turkeys while they were defrosting, in the sink. Within about twenty minutes each of the turkeys were fully defrosted and able to be put into the oven to cook.
When I noticed a few of the males who I did not know what their particular medical conditions were had seemed a bit off, I had them move to a different section altogether so those individuals could recuperate but still feel though they were doing more and helping as they had wanted. There were a few males who showed up a bit later and they were instructed by the one who was in charge, as they were not working in the kitchen area. When the female Dominants started arriving, I had informed the one in charge the food would be ready in about fifteen minutes, and the food preparation would be completed for the time being. Though other food would still be cooked as there were multiple courses, the males continued working as best as they could despite the circumstances. As I felt a little bit of oddities from some of the males instead of keeping them in the kitchen, I asked them to get drinks ready for the female Dominants so whatever stuff going on would give them a bit of a breather so they could calm down from what was going on.
As the drinks were handed out to the various female Dominants in the manner which they were shown how to do to present the drinks, the other males in the kitchen were moved from one location to another as I watched over them. When the or’derves were ready to be put out onto the main counter, the arrangement was reorganized slightly to maximize the room available as best as possible for each dish to be available to easily get to. Noticing one male in particular getting a bit antsy from the crowds I asked him to grab the trash bags to fill them up to walk with me outside to the dumpster to give him a bit of breathing space. He grabbed several full trash bags as did I, and we walked out of the front to go down some stairs to walk across some gravel to throw the trash away. Since I was in stiletto heels and a spiral steel boned corset, that gravel area gave a little more time for him to have extra breathing as anyone who has ever walked in heels knows; walking on gravel in heels needs a slower pace of walk, to prevent injury. Also taking a moment to stop for a quick smoke break gave that male a bit of time, as I smoked my #cigarette(s) before returning inside.
When cleared and ready to go again, I saw a few things needing assistance with the oven as the potatoes were peeled and the males I showed how to get the potatoes to cook quicker for mashing allowed the side dishes to be available at the same time of the main course. Those female Dominants who had submissives with them were able to get their plates prepared for them as the other females either had one of the males get her the food or had gone to the counter themselves, but were assisted by one of the other males on the other side of the counter. Though the female in charge was afraid the two or three turkeys were not going to be enough as she had only guessed the amount for who had RSVPed up to a certain point to learn more were going to be in attendance, I told her “Don’t worry, it will be enough. I have a saying when I cook any meal which is if you go away hungry, that’s your own fault. There will be plenty.”
As the males continued working in the kitchen and were moved from one section to another depending what felt necessary for each of them to continue on as I could tell a few were wanting a break but not wanting to stop and to prevent them from being pushed too far, I kept moving them from one area to another. Despite some who contested at first, the ease came over them quickly when they saw something different which gave them a little bit more of a breather while still being able to continue what they were doing initially. When the main course was over and the sides were cleared out of the way, everyone was given a break time for the males to eat as well as the female Dominants to digest their food. And most of them smoke for a bit. Though at that point was when I went outside to sit with the female Dominants as the males ate, as my stomach could only handle so much here and there. I ate a few pieces of a few items, but the way my stomach issues can be; sometimes I can only pick a little and other times I can eat a lot more, it depends. Though I think I am not the only one, who is like that at times.
When the time to clear up the area from the main course arrived, the leftovers were packaged and put into the refrigerator for later and the desserts were put out on the counter. Those who could manage to get drinks for the female Dominants did and others who needed a little bit longer to recuperate, were able to. Though I was asked when the deserts would be ready, I told the female Dominants to give the submissives/slaves/switches just a little bit more time to get things prepared. We smoked a few more cigarettes before I went back inside to check how everything was going, as I made only a few minor adjustments to the layout of the food on the counter. When the time came, the ability for the desert to be consumed was announced and each made their way inside to enjoy the final portion of the Thanksgiving meal. Once the desert had been finished and the final bit of clean up occurred, then the games began for the playtime.
I had expressed a bit of concern for the styles of play that were being conducted that evening as though I understood the need for a difference in creativity for the #BDSM, the stapling aspects seemed a bit much for those who had been told to me were going to participate which felt it would be a little bit off for their particular style of play; I had seen before. Though there were some who were able to enjoy the stapling, there were others who seemed not knowing how to say no at the time as it seemed they were unaware before of what they had #volunteered for. There had been a few others who seemingly did not understand the aspects of being a “human ashtray” and though some enjoyed, again it seemed though others were having similar issues. I did not interfere with the play itself though I did ask questions of which caused a bit of thought for certain people involved, while giving each their own opportunity to go as far as each chose to; as each were above the age of #21 years old.
As per my usual when it was closer to midnight, I prepared myself to get ready to go back home to where I was living at the time to be back in time for my children’s babysitter to be done for the night as I did. When getting ready to leave I asked if anything further was needed before finalizing my departure and when nothing further was needed, I walked towards my car to go after saying my goodbyes for the night. I admit thinking back I find it odd of one of the female Dominants I had asked questions of when in regards to the “human ashtray” aspect when in #Austin #Texas and if she though she was going too far; a few months later if I am accurate, her apartment had a fire and she lost a lot of stuff when I was in the #Dallas area. Though I did not learn of that until several months afterwards when one of the male submissives at the time had told me of such, and the fires which occurred in #Bastrop #County. Knowing he had a son and the way certain things took a bit of time I sent a small care package for his son full of clothing to make sure he was okay, so he did not have to worry about too many things as he was young as well as dealing with his parents’ divorce on top of the fire aspect. Though I told him I could not replace his firearms which had melted because of the amount of heat from the fires which occurred, I told him I hoped he was able to get the ones he could replaced so the aspects which the 2nd Amendment allows each to have their own form of protection.
Overall the Thanksgiving dinner was a success and the end results were of enjoyment had, by all. I admit in reference to some of the female Dominants who were more along the professional side I had heard some comments of wondering how I could allow myself to be in the kitchen instead of sitting back and just being a part of the event which did briefly confuse me, and though I do not want to come across as arrogant in some ways I wonder; how much more Dominant as a female, could I have been at that point in time? If I had sat back and watched instead of helping where I could, where would that have left the female in charge of the event itself? How would that have helped her when she was already stressed out, and worried about impressions for different aspects? If I had sat back and done nothing, what other issues could have occurred in regard to some of the males with what seemingly I had felt at the time? I know there was one male in particular who initially was preparing food in the direct center of the kitchen who I felt needed to be moved to the outer corner, and he did not need to be moved anywhere else as it had felt as though his abilities were doing better in that area while also giving him the ability to watch the kitchen which it seemed it felt odd for him to have so many people near his back.
If I had sat back and done nothing, I wonder would that have made me more of a submissive than a Dominant, for taking a leadership role where needed; but also stepping back, when needed? Would it have made me more Dominant or less Dominant in their eyes if I only let the others flounder while ignoring the potential hazards at the time, or would it have been more Dominant or less Dominant to just wait until things were done? Personally I admit at the time, those thoughts were the least of my concerns. I wonder now in reference to such as with various aspects which have occurred since that time, I wonder if what I thought I had heard as whisperings when I had walked by were just my own insecurities because of various aspects or if they were in actuality being whispered about at that moment in time. While I obviously cannot go back in time and review such events to change anything the aspects of which I wonder now, I do not see how much more Dominant I could have been; if in judgement by others, for such.
I could be incorrect and I could come across as arrogant to some, though realistically I cannot see those who truly would be honest with themselves; admitting to anything but, pure Dominance from me. In my opinion in reference to the BDSM #Lifestyle I have believed Dominance is not just what can be done to another as realistically in each realm whether #physical/#mental/#emotional/#sexual/#spiritual as in my views that is more in reference to Sadism (of what is being done) and Masochism (of what is being experienced), in reference to the pain given or felt. When looking at the aspects of Dominance I have believed it is not solely an aspect of what can be done to another as the other has to be a willing participant for the opposite end of that spectrum of which the submissive/slave/switch accepts what is given to them, as per what the Dominant has been informed of what is of acknowledged between those involved.
Dominance in my opinion to me is knowing when to take the lead and knowing when to sit back, to let others do as needed for such. Dominance is more than the physical/etcetera aspects, but more-so a frame of mind and in combination of actions; not reactions as reactions when in the view of are what occurs when a Dominant does something to a willing submissive, in the role(s) of and within the BDSM Lifestyle.
On the same point though I believe such, I do not consider another Dominant more or less than I, as I know each has their own style of. I have not compared myself to others’ style of Dominance before because of the fact each person is different in their own ways, of how they exude as such. Whereas there are male and female Dominants I have had various talks with, it never once came across my mind to even attempt to Dominate another Dominant; as I simply respected their roles of what they particularly enjoy, though I have been able to appreciate such creativity of others as they have played with those who have been partners of theirs. Have I had experiences where usually a male Dominant has attempted to make me act less than myself, of course; but the same too can be said of female Dominants, in different dealings with such in various situations. I doubt I am the only one who has experienced such however I made the choice a long time ago, not to engage with such types of competitive behavior which seemingly just has been ignored because it does not register as anything beyond certain